Internet love, Is it good or bad?

[havocholli]

Hello Everyone
I am Holli and I was asked by a friend to share a life experience with you all.

I am 27, live in Iowa and I met an amazing Man via the net who lives in Ca. while I was married but not in a relationship with my soon to be xhusband.

We talked on ICQ and MSN for some time and a chat here and there became talking every day, about every thing.

In talking you learn a lot about the other person even things they don’t see them selves. We called it Learning each other

After a little while he asked me to call him so I made him wait until the next day and at the crack of dawn I called him. I loved him before I ever called him and the phone call just made me fall even deeper in love with him. We became like the other half of each other. Not one day went by that we didn’t talk (thank god for pre paid phone card's) lol. We were each others first phone call of the day and the last thing we did before going to bed. Time went on and we just grew even deeper in love to the point that we longed to meet in person, to see what the other looked like when they smiled, said each others name, and just to see the other one be more happy than we ever thought possible.

Behind all the bliss is the internet and how it twists things because it is made up of lies and cruel intentions sometimes not meant to happen but they just do. Not always due to being just plain mean but due to being what you wish you could be but are not. The net allows people to hide there flaws and little imperfections and even more so the big one's.

I was that person in the relationship I had found myself so in love with that I thought just being plain me wasn’t ever going to be good enough or perfect enough. So I lied in the beginning to hide from a stranger who I found to be interesting, and that stranger turned out to be all I have ever wanted in my life. So In the middle I kept up the lies to hide the first ones, It got so out of hand that in the end well you all know you can never hide or run from the truth and it caught up with me and killed the love in his heart for me. Along with the lies was a life of transformation and regrowth of a person who learned how to like her self and learned to become worth something, he taught me how to love, live, and be happy.

It kills me to go a day with out him, and each day seems to get longer and longer.

Along with the lie's was a moment in time I wasn’t faithful to our commitment to each other and rather than just be honest I lied again to hide from the truth.

I can’t start to tell any of you how important it is to be 100% honest no matter what right from the start with all people in all things. I learned a lesson that will haunt me for the rest of my life when I lost Him and forever I will search for his love to return to me.

I offer this advice to all people who love each other and met via the net.......
If it is real you will know it, only real love leaves finger prints on your heart that never go away. If it is real don’t hide from it. I was asked a question some time ago before I failed love and that was "When are you going to let life start for you Holli"?

Then was the first time I realized He was the thing I had been searching for all my life and didn’t think could ever be real.

If nothing ever good comes of the mess I made for myself for and Him then maybe I can help others who are in a long distant relationship and met on the net.

To the person who has been wronged in a relationship let me just say people are not perfect and we all have to at one point in our life stop and ask for forgiveness for one thing or another, I beg you be forgiving and never give up on love no matter what!!!

Be as forgiving as you would want the other to be of you.

I wish all people to be happy and I hope for all of you that you find what your looking for, JUST BE HONEST NO MATTER WHAT!!

Searching for his love HH (just me)

[CherryKiss]

Well anyone who knows me, knows that this is one topic I would never pass up on <img src=icon_smile_wink.gif border=0 align=middle>. I have been on the various IM services for 2 years now and have met several friends from all around the world. I count myself lucky to have met them and keep in contact with each one on a weekly basis. I have introduced ones that have fallen madly in love on the net, met eachother, married and tell me they are still going strong. I have known others that meet and immediately email me telling me that the person they thought they loved misrepresented themselves in one way or the other. OR that they were attracted to them mentally but not physically. I agree with Holli, its most important to speak your mind and NOT lie about anything. I say that internet love can be more fulfilling than love in "real" life love in many aspects. In real life chances are you won't find a persons flaws due to lack of looking beyond looks or sex. On the net you have to do just that, Look beyond. You have to find a common ground with a person mentally and not physically. Thats probably why it effects those of us that do fall in love so deeply. There is a certain satisfaction (especially for females) that a person is not just wanted for sex or looks but for their mind and lifes ideals as well. THAT is a major point for me. In person - Most will see me and fall at my feet. On the net - They like me for my brain power or they don't like me at all. Period. I have been in love on the net, though I never met Him. Life can be so unfair sometimes, but the love is still there, it will not go away simply because the relationship is over. Its haunting and sad, its absolutely splendid and keeps me going, all those lovely memories. I can live my life the way I want due to him and his love I once felt. He opened my eyes and gave me a glimpse of what "REAL" love is. Love on the net is overwelming, exciting, and under rated. I say enjoy it to its fullness, I say grab that man by his virtual ears and lay one on him. <img src=icon_smile_wink.gif border=0 align=middle>

[all12inches2002]

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Havocholli you sound like an easy hooker to me ..why dont you just put up a naked pic and a phone number for everyone ....skank. nice story you love this guy but you still cheat for god sakes keep your legs shut u dog.

[ROB]

nice sentiment, twelve. obviously you know much better?

[Jeff]

Hey folks! Let's not start bashing each other here. Everyone is welcome to share their opinion, but let's try to keep from pointing fingers. I'm sure none of us are perfect.

Jeff Hester
BigBlueBall.com

[Anna]

oh gosh. darn. so the party's over eh? dAnG I'm too late ... now now girls there's enough of me to go around! <img src=icon_smile_tongue.gif border=0 align=middle>

Anna

[lonelyhrt62]

Wow... hot topic. It's been awhile since I've been here, it's good to be back. I've heard all kinds of tales of love found and lost here. I myself have been party to finding what I thought was "the one" on the net. But I had to bring myself back to reality. You just can't throw a woman, her two kids, a man and a thousand miles of distance together and have harmony. I realized it couldn't work when I would come home from these trips.... to my children. Maybe it would have worked, maybe he was a rebound from my ex-husband. I'm not sure, but I'm not tainted. I still chat, still flirt and hope that the next time I'm a little wiser. There is someone for me, who? Well it's definitely not the guy who asks me for panties!
Cheers

[mflynn]

Love is where you find it, life is what you make it, people are who they are. Don't you just love a good cliche? There is a reason these things become cliche.
Aside from the morality of the issue, lying is always counter productive. "What a tangled web we weave when first we practice to decieve". Don't you just love a good quote too?
Sh-t happens, it's hard to tell who people are and what they are thinking when you are looking them in the eye, never mind reading what they've written. The web has re-invented the love letter and is the greatest boon to literacy since the Bible.
If the guy was who you really wanted he would have accepted your position for what it was. Ignore the insults, move on, have fun, que sera, sera.
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Mark

[Mr. Diablos]

I met some girl online. still haven't met her, but she's really cool.

[rustedtight]

Cool,
Now promise not to ask me for my panties.<img src=icon_smile_shock.gif border=0 align=middle>


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